Comparison is the thief of joy!!
It sucks your energy dry…
It takes you away from the task at hand…
So how about this…
Instead of looking at others and making that comparison, we should look up to them and thank them for paving the way.
It doesn’t make sense to compare your beginning with someone else who has been in the business for years.
You can’t compare your day 1 with someone else’s year 10, 15, 20+.
Easier said than done, right?! Yeah, we get it…
If you are finding your joy depleting because you can’t stop making that comparison, we have some tips for you:
- Thank them for showing you what’s possible.
- Use the, “hide” feature and simply hide them from your feed -> out of sight, out of mind!
- Remove yourself from groups that don’t resonate with you anymore.
- Look at feeds for inspiration but not for comparison.
All the energy you’re using focusing on other people and what they’re doing in their business and life, should be focused on your own business and growing your brand and community.
Regardless of where you are in your business, you will always have goals and ambitions as to where you want to be, so make sure you’re giving yourself a little slack. You’re not alone!
There will always be people ahead of you, but also remember there are people who aren’t as advanced as you are just yet as well.
In thinking about comparison, there are a few things you need to keep in mind:
- There will always be people who have been at “it” a little longer than you
- If they haven’t been at it longer, maybe they had help by a coach, or previous sales experience or copywriting experience, etc.
- Maybe they threw a lot of money into some Facebook ads that you’re not aware of
- Maybe they seem to be new but what you don’t see is that they’ve actually been working behind the scenes to build this business for the last 10+ years
We like to use the analogy of the glacier; what you see, like the top of a glacier, is only a little tiny bit of the story. And what you don’t see is the huge monstrosity underneath the water. You can’t always take what you see for the full story or entire picture – the coaches, Facebook ads, time spent in this journey, etc.
What you should be focusing on is thinking of quality over quantity.
Are you really showing up and offering your best self, your best content, your best practices every single day?
Are you giving your audience real WOW and something to be impressed with?
Think slow and steady; building your business is a marathon, not a sprint.
We don’t all need to race for success overnight because it won’t happen that way. And another way to look at this is really defining what success is to YOU, because even that definition is different for everyone.
And know you can always reach out for help. In every business we’ve ever started, we’ve always hired a coach to hire that outside perspective that you’re not an expert in just yet. When you don’t have that mentor, it’s too easy to fall into that trap of stopping and comparing yourself to others. There are things you don’t know and if you have a mentor, they can help talk you through those things.
To hear the full interview and our thoughts, strategy and advice for anyone who finds themselves in comparison mode, watch our Real Talk chat here: